HOW TO WRITE YOUR PERSONAL WEDDING VOW.
Writing your own vow might seem daunting and difficult but it’ll be so worth it when you’re at the altar. In fact, there’s perhaps a better way to add your own unique spin to your wedding day.
Here are some tips and tricks about how to write vows that are meaningful and also capable of amazing, amusing and touching the hearts of your wedding guests.
READ LOTS OF VOW EXAMPLES FOR INSPIRATION ON HOW TO WRITE VOWS
Start by reading traditional, buy the book vow from your own religion if you practice a certain faith, and others as well to see what strikes a chord with you.
Incorporate these samples into the original words you write or simply use them as a jumping off point. Once you have found a few you love, consider what it is about the style that draws you to those vows in particular.
AGREE ON FORMAT AND TONE WITH YOUR PARTNER
Decide how you want your vow to come across. Do you envision them as humorous? Poetic and romantic? Go over the logistics too. Will you write them separately or together? Will they be completely different or will you make the same promise to each other as you would in traditional vows? Finally will you share them to each other or keep them a secret until wedding day?
JOT DOWN NOTES ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Take some time to reflect on your partner. Think about how you felt when you first met, what made you fall in love and when you knew you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together.
Write it all out to get your creative gears turning. Ask yourself certain questions and think about things like;
– Why you decided to get married
– What hard times you’ve gone through together
– What you have supported each other through
– What challenge you envision for your future
– What you want to accomplish together
– What makes your relationship tick
– What you thought when you first saw your partner
– What you respect most about your partner
– What inspires you about your partner
– What you miss most about them when you’re apart, and so on.
COME UP WITH ONE OR MORE PROMISES
They’re called vows for a reason, so the promise are the most important part. Include promises that are broad in scope like, ” I promise I’ll always be there to support you,” for instance, as well as ones that are very specific to the two of you like, ” I promise I’ll always let you watch GAME OF THRONES on Sundays”.
WHEN WRITING WEDDING VOWS, WRITE IT ALL OUT
Now that you have notes, you are ready to establish a structure and write your first draft. It’s helpful to break it into four part outline:
– Affirm your love
– Praise your partner
– Offer promise
– Close with a final vow.
Another way to organize it is to start with a short story and then circle back to it at the end.
REMEMBER THAT THINGS MAY GET TOUGH
On the day of your wedding, it may feel like your marriage will always be perfect. But the reality is that your future together will likely include challenging times. When writing wedding vows, you might want to include a note to this possiblity and the ways the two of you plan to cope.
SHORTEN YOUR VOWS TO A MAXIMUM OF ONE – TWO MINUTES
Your vows are important, but that doesn’t mean they should drag on. When you say something meaningful, you shouldn’t have to say it over and over, So pick the most important points and make them. Put some of the more personal thoughts in a letter or gift to your wedding and save any guest-related topic for your toasts.
After writing your own vows,ask your friends and relatives to hold you to them. Although writing wedding vows can be a difficult task, it’s got nothing on actually following through on them. After all, marriage isn’t always Rosy. The good news is that since your closest friends and family members will be there to witness your commitment to each other, you can ask them to remind you of your wedding vows if you are ever tempted to break them.